Augusta GA Divorce Attorney – Divorce recovery and the symptoms of inner peace

Augusta GA Divorce Attorney – Divorce recovery and the symptoms of inner peace

by Corinne Frontiero

The initial article entitled Do you have an emotional divorce? located on “Corinne’s Home Page”, sets out the time perimeters to apply to divorce recovery and provides a self-inventory one may take to determine if they have actually attained an emotional divorce. Essentially, however, it should take no longer than 2 1/2 years to adjust to your divorce. This 2 1/2 year time frame, however, would exclude those that remain “stuck” in the Denial Stage as referred to in the article Divorce and the death of your relationship. The intent of this article is to provide you some general guidelines by which to gauge whether or not you have actually “recovered” from your divorce.

An article by Ruth Purple entitled Dating After Divorce Can Keep You Back on Track reassures us that even though the prospect of dating again is frightening, it “can be fun and can keep you . . . on track.” The article informs us, also, that for most, thinking about dating again can be very “nerve wracking” but affirms for us that often people heading back out onto the dating scene struggle with the same types of questions and/or concerns:

A lot of things and questions can cross your mind. Is this the right time? Am I really ready? Are my children going to be alright if I date? Should I tell my date I have kids? Can I still find a decent man/woman as a divorcee? Questions like this are normal, to doubt yourself, to be scared and to be overly anxious to go back in the [sic] dating are typical reactions.”

Hopefully, knowing most people struggle with the same types of anxiety about dating again will help you find the courage to forge forward and take the plunge.

Ruth Purple, reaffirms what has already been set out in Divorce and the death of your relationship in that she states: ” Your bitterness and anger toward the opposite sex might flare up making you prejudice[d] and judgmental.” [Emphasis Added]. Once you have worked through this, however, and come to the reality that the basis of divorce is not a “gender related” issue, but rather, the breakdown of the communication between two individuals.

So, what are the tell tale signs that will give you a “head’s up” that you are ready? Generally, once you start to experience the symptoms of “inner peace”, you are ready, willing and considered “open” to being involved in another love relationship. The “symptoms of inner peace are defined as:

A tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than on fears based on past experience.
An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment.
A loss of interest in interpreting the actions of others.
A loss of interest in judging other people.
A loss of interest in conflict.
A loss of the ability to worry.
Frequent overwhelming episodes of appreciation.
An increasing tendency to let things happen rather than make them happen.
An increased susceptibility to the love extended by others as well as the uncontrollable urge to give in.
So are the symptoms of inner peace. This is what you will need to strive towards in order to make it through the dissolve of your relationship so that you may able to “move forward”.

Alexandra Gonzalez-Waddington is an Augusta GA divorce lawyer & Georgia Military Divorce Lawyer Augusta Georgia domestic mediator.  She is an Augusta military divorce lawyer, GA child custody attorney , and Augusta Georgia child support attorney.  She offers mediation for divorce, child custody, and child support.